As many of you know, I’m a huge sharer out here in Blogville. I’ve always listened to my soul, wrote from the heart, clicked publish, and received much love and support. My thought process is to be as authentic as possible, because there most likely are others folks out here that have experienced the same thing and speaking up connects us and makes us feel less alone.
Well last week I shared a vulnerable moment with my wellness group I belong to and it was basically nothing but crickets. My anxiety went through the roof! I’m not sure why I was so surprised, since leading up to this I can see now that my prior shares with them weren’t exactly connecting either. I got to go walk with a good friend the next day and hash it all out and basically realized that’s just life. With some folks you will connect and bond and with others you won’t so much. And that’s okay.
With this other group I have been growing on so many levels, I just assumed they’d be an open loving sounding board. I can’t put my finger on how I misjudged. They are younger then me and possibly just couldn’t relate yet. I obviously don’t know that ..just a gut feeling.
So I thought more and more on it. Out here I didn’t start off as a sharer and heck was even anonymous for a short period. It took a good bit to build up my courage and get a vibe that I’d be supported. A longer dance if you will. I had just assumed it would be the same with this other group, but it has only been a couple of months since I joined. Ha, writing this sounds like I had a few dates with someone I thought was special and then it went cold. I guess in a way that’s the way it played out. We’ll still be friends though.😀
Like I said I’ve been growing in so many other ways that I definitely want to keep moving forward with them, but it was definitely eye opening. I just realized I won’t always connect on deep levels with everyone and maybe be a bit more cautious prior to throwing “it” all out there. For example with my breakfast club with the guys we don’t go to that level, nor do I try with my coworkers. I definitely learned from this experience.
There was one other main thing I discovered, but I’m still exploring and shaking out that theme so I’ll comment on that possibly in the future.
Has anyone else experienced something like this in a group setting?
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.—Ralph Waldo Emerson