I’ve had good, bad, and the ugly friendships in my 56 years. Looking back I’ve put up with too many one sided relationships. Lately I’ve been thinking about my current friendships, the time I’m investing, and what am I truly getting out of them.
I thought I’d share some criteria I’m mulling over on what makes a good friendship for me:
- Listening. No distractions, not on our phones, and being present. Not following up with a one up story. Simply listening.
- Honesty. Diving below the surface and showing me your fears and hang ups. Being brave to show me who you truly are.
- Questions. Ask me questions. No more one sided discussions where I’m the one always asking you more and more so I can learn about you.
Maybe it’s the clock ticking away. Maybe I finally love myself enough to get a little respect. Maybe I’m just sick and tired of the nonsense I’ve put up with.
I was pretty lonely for a very long time and would almost accept anyone who wanted to be friends. Not anymore.
I’m growing uP,
HOW ABOUT YOU?